Pulling The Thread or How To Start Making Progress

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If you've met me in real life, chances are you’ve heard me say 'keep pulling the thread'.  In case we have not met, let me to explain.  Imagine a tangled up thread that you want to untangle. Maybe your kids played with it and then your cats and then it was stepped on.  Now that you want to untangle the mess, you try pull it in different directions and loosen it up.  May be you even try employing a stick to help it.  Eventually you get it just right and have yourself a thread free from knots and ties.  It will be worn out a bit from all the manipulation, but it’s nice and free now.  In my mind many difficult circumstances are just like a tangled thread.  It’s a big mess and you don’t know where to start.  If you let it sit there, it remains a tangled mess.  If you try to untangle it, it may even appear to get worse at first. 

Back in 2014 I had myself a tangled up triple mess.  In short I had two minor children that I now was solely responsible for, a mortgage that I couldn’t afford even if I tracked every dollar in my budget, a car payment, daycare expenses and a job schedule that didn’t accommodate raising children.  I can still remember the blank stare that I had back then.  All I could think about was how messed up this is and I cannot opt out. Without any clue what to do, I started pulling the thread.  I took some good and not so good advice, I attended workshops, started dating, borrowed money to build out a rental in the basement of my house, went out to social gatherings, put too much money on my credit card and… I was routinely late for work and the first one to leave for the day. If we worked together we probably wouldn’t be friends. Few years had gone by and nothing felt like progress. I still wasn’t sure if I was moving in the right direction or just floating around. It was clear that nothing was for sure. Looking back I can tell you what I know for sure now.

I know for sure that looking for answers creates answers…

Trying different things creates different results…

Action doesn’t require assurances that it will work…

Trying new things opens doors to more answers…

What I know for sure is to keep going we start by pulling that thread until we get ourselves a worn out, but free from knots and ties thread.